{"id":535,"date":"2022-01-18T20:32:11","date_gmt":"2022-01-19T04:32:11","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.lifeofannika.com\/blog\/?p=535"},"modified":"2022-01-18T20:39:08","modified_gmt":"2022-01-19T04:39:08","slug":"passive-aggressive-or-just-wildly-irrational-i-dunno","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lifeofannika.com\/blog\/?p=535","title":{"rendered":"Passive aggressive? Or just wildly irrational? I dunno…"},"content":{"rendered":"

When the family (Ruddy’s and Johnson’s) met in December 2021 to decide what to do with Dad’s belongings (furniture, etc) after he had passed away, the Ruddy’s (thankfully) took almost everything to Colorado in a large 15′ UHaul. However, we did take a very few things, to include one small table and a chest with family memorabilia:<\/p>\n

\"\"<\/a>The table is a nice piece and it doesn’t take a lot of space. So imagine my surprise when I returned home today to find the table – after being in the house for about 6 weeks – was gone. Andrea had put it up in the attic.<\/p>\n

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Now, putting aside whether the table did or didn’t fit there (or more generally in the house), let’s take a look at the rest of the house at this same, exact moment. The question that comes to my mind: Andrea had the entire day off of work…and this table was the one thing she had to act upon?<\/p>\n

For example, rather than take the humidifier away (that hasn’t been used in months) from the window sill, or the robotic vacuum (white circular thing on the floor) that hasn’t been used in over a year, or the balance half ball covered with some of Andrea’s (really) old magazines that hasn’t been moved in years, or the foot massage (red thing on the hearth) that hasn’t been used in months…she moves the table?<\/p>\n

\"\"Rather than finish doing the laundry, or putting the mop away,\u00a0she moves the table?<\/p>\n

\"\"Let’s not mention the kitchen appliances, which have been here for 1 year waiting for Andrea to finalize the arrangements with the guy remodeling the kitchen.<\/p>\n

\"\"Rather than put away the shoes, the backpack, the random box filled with stuff from a junk drawer which has been at this exact spot for over a month,\u00a0she moves the table?<\/p>\n

\"\"Rather than clean up her table in our bedroom (which nearly always looks like this),\u00a0she moves the table?<\/p>\n

\"\"Rather than clean the spare bedroom (not really Niki’s room),\u00a0she moves the table?<\/p>\n

\"\"Rather than remove her bikes from Annika’s room (or the small other items that we took from my Dad’s house),\u00a0she moves the table?<\/p>\n

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This act would seem to be passive aggressive if the table were important to me, but…it’s not. It’s a nice looking table and I thought it fit there, but I’m not vested in the piece and have never made a comment about it in the 6 weeks it’s been here. I’m OK that it’s gone, just scratching my head at the motivation.<\/p>\n

Now, of course, this blog post might seem passive aggressive, but it isn’t since no one will read this (think diary). It’s really just documenting a question to myself: why would Andrea move the table?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

When the family (Ruddy’s and Johnson’s) met in December 2021 to decide what to do with Dad’s belongings (furniture, etc) after he had passed away, the Ruddy’s (thankfully) took almost everything to Colorado in a large 15′ UHaul. However, we did take a very few things, to include one small table and a chest with […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[8],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.lifeofannika.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/535"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.lifeofannika.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.lifeofannika.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.lifeofannika.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.lifeofannika.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=535"}],"version-history":[{"count":6,"href":"https:\/\/www.lifeofannika.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/535\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":554,"href":"https:\/\/www.lifeofannika.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/535\/revisions\/554"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.lifeofannika.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=535"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.lifeofannika.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=535"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.lifeofannika.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=535"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}