The 10’s.
The 30’s.
The 40’s.
I turned 20 on April 30, 1983; I was living on-campus in a dorm, nearing the end of my freshman year at the University of Arizona in Tucson. I turned 30 on April 30, 1993, living in Mountain View, CA; I had just started working for Cisco Systems. Much happened in between, of course. Without question this decade was the most adventurous, the most variable, the most mobile, and a whole lotta fun.
May 1983 – Aug 1983. End of my uneventful freshman year; final exams are in early May, and my final grades are not impressive (I forget, but my GPA was around 2.75). I had started my Freshman year in the Electrical Engineering department, but after taking a coding course I was hooked and changed my degree to Computer Engineering. The Computer Engineering program was brand new; we were literally the first students in the program, which began as mostly an EE course load, with EE electives removed in favor of Computer Science courses (Fortran, LISP, C, etc).
In the Spring I was working the graveyard shift at Levicio’s (like a 7-11); it turns out many of the men working there were gay, and I never had a clue. Typical Mark. The job was a secret to my parents; after the school year was out, back in Napa, I surprised my parents with $500, to help pay for college the following year. I felt good about that, although there is a good argument that one’s priorities should first be about classes and learning and grades, and not about money (to the point of working graveyard!).
I spent the summer back in Napa, working with Dad at Alhambra Electric in Martinez, delivering supplies to the electricians and cleaning up the shop. Susan and I see each other as much as possible; she will be returning to college at Santa Clara in September. Luckily I am home when AT&T calls; they are trying to track down the person who has been making free calls from the University of Arizona, and some of the calls made were to the house in Napa. They ask if the owners of the household are home (they are); I say they aren’t. They ask if I know anyone in Tucson, AZ (I do); I say I don’t. They ask a few more questions, and that’s it. I never hear from or about AT&T again. This is a big moral failure, and demonstrates how economic realities can compromise a (weak) moral compass – pretty easily in fact when the victim is a large, faceless corporation.
Aug 1983 – May 1984. Sophomore year; living in an apartment with Mansour Abu Rahmeh, Ken Gouseman, and Randy (?). Mansour is Jordanian (Christian); our living together was a fluke (I accidentally ran into him the day I arrived in Tucson, ready to look for an apartment), but he ended up being a great and fun friend, a huge social extrovert and music fan who had beautiful female friends. Kenny was a serious straight A student (Aerospace Engineering), not much fun but an outstanding character. Randy (Astronomy)…odd, from Wisconsin, loved Def Leopard (Ken’s choice was The Who), who didn’t have much of a personality. All three I had met in the dorm freshman year. I’m not working at all this school year; my grades increase a little, but I still think I was below a 3.0 GPA, which is pathetic. Arlene came to visit for a week in March; Diana was supposed to come, but she couldn’t save enough money for the flight.
After 4 years together, Susan and I have split up; the reality of a long distance relationship is just too much. Our relationship had plenty of bumps, even though my feelings for Susan were strong and never in question. In High School I broke up with Susan at a dance – after giving her a dozen roses! In hindsight I think the reason I broke up is that I was so crazy for her the strength of my emotions were confusing me. This break up lasted about a week. We broke up again once I graduated from High School, mostly because I thought I needed to move on (from everything, which was absurd since I wasn’t going anywhere). This break up lasted about a week. Two years at UofA I was completely faithful to Susan; never dated, never flirted, had her pictures and cards all over the walls, called her weekly. But the reality of a physical distance between two people slowly introduces an emotional distance that can’t be mitigated by weekly phone calls…
April 1984. It’s early Saturday morning when Arlene calls; Diana has been in an auto accident the previous night, there are no assurances that she will survive (she is in a coma), and I should come home now. I collapse on the floor, into a fog; details were absent, so there wasn’t anything for me to specifically ponder, just unanswered questions. I had signed up for a triathlon that day with Kel (who transferred to UofA after one year at the Maritime Academy) and Marty Flynn; after the tri I took a flight home.
Diana’s accident was on Hwy 121 in Sonoma; she was returning home late (after midnight) after visiting her boyfriend who had recently moved from Napa to Santa Rosa. Her car had simply run off the road, hitting a huge, mature eucalyptus tree; the only plausible explanation is that she fell asleep at the wheel. It was ~6 weeks before her 18th birthday, 2 months before her graduation from Vintage High School.
I went right to the hospital in Santa Rosa from the airport; Diana was in a coma, on life support. Her entire head was bandaged; the impact to her head in the accident was the deciding factor. After 4 days the family made the difficult but obvious decision to take Diana off of life support, and donate any organs. My Mom had been in the hospital in Napa when the accident occurred; she was recuperating from gal bladder surgery. It was only when she was able to leave the hospital that we told her of Diana’s situation; she came to Santa Rosa to spend some time with Diana before saying goodbye.
I have to be honest in my recollections: Diana’s death was a stunning shock initially, but in hindsight I was still relatively immature and self-centered, which prevented me from empathizing with the pain my parents were going through. My suffering was abbreviated; my entry into college had already cemented the reality that I was on to my next phase in life, physically and somewhat emotionally remote from my immediate family. After a few weeks in Napa for the funeral, I returned to Arizona for finals, and then spent the summer in LA as originally planned. I had plenty of moments where I pondered Diana and the loss, but the pain quickly decreased to a remote numbness.
I suspect that my muted mourning was also a reflection of my relationship with Diana; we were very close. While it seems intuitive that this would result in more suffering, my take was that I had no regrets – of mean things I had said, nice things I hadn’t said, actions I hadn’t taken. I had plenty of fond memories of the two of us talking and sharing, especially the year prior to my leaving for Arizona.
Still, nothing can compare you for going home. Going into Diana’s room, with clothes everywhere and the bed unmade, as if she has just left right then and we missed seeing her. It was still a few weeks before Easter, but she had her Easter gift (to include, oddly, a helium balloon) for her boyfriend on the dresser. Pinned to a wall was a cutout Ann Landers self-help column, with a hypothetical story about a young girl in an auto accident who hovers above the scene while the paramedics and her family arrive (the message was “drive safe!”). How bizarre is that?
May 1984 – August 1984 – Summer in LA, working as (seriously) a secretary at Texaco, Inc. I got the job due to Bernie Hertan, a High School friend who had returned to CA after 3 years in the Army. He worked odd jobs with Texaco (his sister worked there), to include as a chauffeur for the CEO. The Olympics were in LA that summer, so I should have had a blast. But between me still processing Diana’s death, Bernie spending most of his free time with his girlfriend Lisa (whom he met at UofA when he came to visit me after returning to the States from his tour in Berlin), the job being a joke, and me not knowing anyone in SoCal, it was not that much fun. I briefly dated a woman who also worked at Texaco; it was an extended fling, but not in the normal sense due to her having a ~7 year old son and living with her parents. She was a wonderful and energetic woman, but she was an escape for me, I was likely an escape for her.
August 1984 – May 1985 – Junior year; living in a 4 bedroom apartment further off campus with Mansour, Kenny, Kellan and Marty Flynn. Kel gets me a job that Fall at a local grocery store (forget the name) where he has spent the summer working; this is where I first meet Carolyn Wilkinson, the high energy ambitious manager. She is a member of the Alpha Chi Omega sorority, so I also meet her friends Debbie Goldwater, Debbie Hinz, etc. These women all had cars, were all independent, all very ambitious, and just a lot of fun.
In September, barely a month into school, I flew back to Napa as a surprise for a party being held for my parents anniversary (trying to celebrate while we were all still recovering from Diana’s death). We (Arlene) rented out a room at a restaurant, and some of my High School friends (Rich Williams, Brian Dolan, John Bussell) attended as well – which means I got drunk! Sunday came too quickly…
On November 8, 1984 a group of us went to see Bruce Springsteen’s “Born in the USA” tour at the Arizona State University Activity Center in Tempe. I had been a big Springsteen fan since around 1980, so this was a big deal. The fun began well before November 8, however. Back before the internet, one had to purchase tickets in person at a ticket outlet. In the case of Springsteen, the excitement was huge so we arrived on a Saturday night around 9PM (tickets went on sale Sunday morning at 10AM) to wait in line, only to find out there was already a substantial line through the empty parking lot of a large shopping mall in Tucson. Didn’t sleep the entire night; instead we listened non-stop to bootleg concert cassette tapes from those around us also waiting (sitting) in line. This was pretty special, since the tapes were so much more personal (Bruce would talk a lot in between songs) than the albums I had been listening to.
I recall Christmas in Napa. Mom was an emotional wreck, wrestling with Diana’s death. Things were not going well between Mom and Dad; Arlene did a lot of mediating, since she had moved back home to go to college at Sonoma State (nursing program). At one point Mom mentioned how some absurdly high percentage of marriages (80%?) end in divorce after the loss of a child; as it turns out, that would happen in 1986, when Dad left for work and never returned. The challenge of both processing your loss, as well as empathizing with how your spouse is (or is not) processing the loss, was just too difficult to reconcile.
Carolyn and Goldwater took a short trip to Napa for Christmas, to visit with Kel, Marty, and I. I ended up fooling around with Carolyn in a back bedroom; I was extremely attracted to her personality, not as much physically. We were both shocked at what was going on, but in the end nothing came of it; in hindsight I think that was good, because our friendship was so fantastic that a relationship beyond that might have ruined it.
The grocery store ended up shutting down in January; I was out of work! I missed the job, the pay, and the time with Carolyn, although we (Kel, Marty, and I with the girls – they all lived together) continued to see a lot of each other.
I end the school year with still better grades, reaching a 3.0 GPA. I am not a stellar student.
May 1985 – June 1986 – Senior year; I live in an apartment with Nick Ong (Electrical Engineering) and Steve Harvey (an Aerospace Engineer and total ladies man). Kel, Marty and Kenny wanted to live closer to campus; Mansour had graduated. I spent the summer working for a (new) moving company; there were only 3 of us: the owner (Bill Boruff, a young, cosmopolitan guy who was extremely nice and professional and supportive), me, and another guy (an out of shape mechanic geek, but a lovely and innocent man). Socially most of the Summer was spent with Carolyn, Goldwater, Kel and Marty; it’s not that I have specific memories of this summer, but certainly have a fond feeling for this period of few responsibilities and much relaxation.
Before the school year begins, I take a week trip to SoCal (San Diego, Newport Beach, Venice, Oxnard, where Nick has an Aunt) with Nick and Jim Carreno, and return with an earring, which doesn’t last the entire school year. Silly, but the trip was a lot of fun.
Before school starts I accompany Mansour to Phoenix; he will be getting his Master’s degree at Thunderbird, and they offer a special week of activities exclusively for the international students. I pretend I am a student; get my student ID, attend all sorts of activities, and Mansour and I are giggling like little kids nearly the entire time. We sleep on the floor in his room, which (we learn later) caused people to think we were gay lovers.
Senior year I “work” as a hasher at the Alpha Chi sorority; basically work in the kitchen in exchange for free food. Plus, almost guaranteed to go to every Alpha Chi party. 🙂 I also do a lot with and get closer to Sherisse Hawkins (Chemical Engineer) who I met through Nick. Like my other female friends, Sherisse is great fun to be around: interesting, curious, adventurous, and contemplative. 30 years after college, she is by far my closest friend from those days at the UofA.
Financial lesson 101. Near the end of my senior year I happen upon a table outside an engineering building where, simply by signing my name, I can get a VISA credit card. Wow! With this move, I graduate from college in debt, with about a $1000 balance paying 19% interest. Yeah, that’s smart.
While the school year started with road trips to Phoenix and SoCal, at Spring Break Sherisse and I and a few others took a ski road trip to Colorado (Breckenridge, A-Basin, Keystone). We drive to Prescott (where Sherisse grew up), and borrowed the Suburban from Sherisse’s lovely parents. I suppose my CC came in handy on this trip. While I had essentially never skied before – maybe once or twice back in Tahoe growing up – these details are irrelevant when one is young and irresponsible and simply looking for road trip adventures. The trip was tame in terms of “partying” (Sherisse was a lot of fun to be around but didn’t drink at all). One funny memory is when I stole (moral compass failure #63) hundreds of scratch-off cards from a grocery store. Amazingly enough, we scratched them all and won…not a damned thing.
Without a doubt, this year was by far my most fun at UofA. Still, never formally dated anyone, and did not attend graduation (felt too symbolic to me), much to the chagrin of Sherisse. There was never a hard period of partying; partially because I could not afford it, partially a lack of interest. There were occasional “White Wednesday” nights at the Bum Steer; dancing at the Wildcat across the street from the Bum Steer; hanging with Harv and the other greek’s at Dirtbags on the border of campus. But in all those nights seemed to be the exception rather than the rule.
I graduated without a job. I had interviewed with a number of companies on campus, but nothing came of it. I think this speaks to my poor grades, and my (in)ability to sell myself. Humble introverts have it rough in this regard. A college friend who had graduated in 1985, Albert Rivera, was working as a civil servant for the US Army 1 hour SE of Tucson at Ft. Huachuca. He promised to walk my application around and drum up some support for me.
Some time after graduation, we all went to see “St. Elmo’s Fire”. The movie hit close to home; about a group of close friends who were graduating, separating, into the great unknown. I can still recall the vertigo sensation as I walked out of the theater; like I had seen some of my own life, on screen.
Nick, my smarter roommate, got an offer with Texas Instruments in Dallas; he celebrated by buying a new Camaro Z28. Sure, I was in mild debt with a CC, but I thought this purchase was (financially) absurd! My self-righteousness was beginning to bloom…
Sherisse got a job with Proctor and Gamble in Long Beach, CA; Goldwater got a job with a bank (forget which one) in SoCal; and Carolyn (who had graduated early in Dec) was already working in Tucson. Marty still had one year of school left, and Kellan (who had also graduated in Dec) did what Kellan did best by surprising us all and joining…the Navy. Go figure.
As for my religious journey these 4 years; there were events that fed my journey away from Christianity. The first was freshman year; on the grassy mall in the middle of campus, individuals would stand there and preach aloud, to no one in particular. This was stunning to me. Up until this point I thought that Christians were sane, rationale, reserved people. Justin taught me that Christians are actually Catholics, Lutherans, etc; now UofA taught me that Christians are actually Catholics, Lutherans, Evangelic “born-agains”. etc. The field was growing, and it was not attractive.
Second was my friendship with Goldwater; she’s Jewish. These are the folks that killed Jesus (who was also a Jew), and would go to hell unless they accepted Jesus as their savior, which is another way of saying they abandon their faith. It’s easy to be dismissive of a broad group of people…until you befriend them. Then it gets complicated.
June 1986 – June 1987 – I headed home to Napa; despite the potentially anxious position of being a college graduate without a job, I don’t recall being stressed about it – typical Mark. But within weeks I receive and accept the job offer for ISEC, the Information Systems Engineering Command. It’s essentially the world wide HQ for US Army engineering efforts; why it’s located at Ft. Huachuca (in the middle of nowhere, near the Mexico border) is likely a historical political story wrapped in cynicism.
I buy a VW Passat from my great Aunt, sister of Grama, who lives near Chico. It’s in great shape, low mileage, and for the first time in 4 years I have a car again (I never had a car my entire time in college; biked everywhere). I pack up my meager belongings, and head back to Tucson to find an apartment. My starting salary as a GS-7 employee was around $23,000; I was RICH! 🙂
I find a 1 BR apartment in a huge 3 story multi-building complex on St. Mary’s Road in Tucson. While I will be working in Sierra Vista, an hour drive from Tucson, I have no desire to live there (small town, nothing going on). Albert and his twin brother Alfred also work at ISEC and also live in Tucson, as does my new manager Dennis Robbins; we become the commute train, always driving Dennis’s beat up car, leaving around 6:30 and home around 5:30. Brutal, but worth it.
Albert had told me lots of stories about traveling the world with work (Germany, Korea, all over the US); but soon after I was hired a travel freeze went into effect by the Reagan administration; thus, my first year of working I didn’t travel a single time. I was stuck working in these old (as in WWII) quonset huts with old government issue metal cubicle’s; I was working and could not have been happier. After 6 months I was promoted to GS-9, making $29,000.
Once I was settled, I acted on a desire that I first looked into Freshman year (I was stopped then because having a car was a requirement). I joined the Big Brother’s/Big Sister’s of Tucson organization, and was soon introduced to Herman Van Natter, a 9 year old originally from the South (West Virginia). Herman was in a bad way; father was gone, never had a positive male figure in his life, his Mom was friendly but also a bad role model (obese, unemployed, watched TV all day long). But to her credit she enrolled Herman in BB. The commitment was once a week for 4 hours, although usually I exceeded that. I wanted so badly to give Herman something to look forward to, to expose him to a way of living unlike anything he had yet seen.
As I got closer to Albert and Alfred, I was “adopted” by their family who lived in Bisbee. I spent many a holiday (Thanksgiving, Christmas, etc) with their family, who were always so wonderful to me. The poor gringo.
Admittedly, I felt a little odd in Tucson after graduation. With many of my college friends gone, I could not shake the feeling that I was going backward by staying in Tucson. Going to any of the old college bars felt uncomfortable, like I didn’t belong, so I didn’t go there that much. With a car I could explore more of Tucson than I had in college, but it was hard to get motivated to drive 30+ minutes, which was easy in Tucson given the flat, broad urban layout of the city.
Soon after I moved into my apartment, Kel showed up; he ended up leaving the Navy. Uncertain as to what to do, he stayed with me in Tucson for a few days, but then decided to return to Napa. He ended up dating his old High School girlfriend Liane (she was the one responsible for Kel and I going to the UofA in the first place), she accidentally got pregnant, and by 1987 Kel was a father to Ryan. Talk about different roads traveled…
June 1987 – Oct 1989 – Making the big bucks, I decided the smart move would be to….buy a house! After weeks and weeks of looking around with a realtor (she admitted later that she had never spent so much time looking for a house with a client), in June I moved in to a brand new $76,000 3 BR 2 BA house in a master planned community in SW Tucson, off of Valencia Rd. Brand new really is pretty cool. And the good news about the purchase: in order for me to qualify, I had to pay off my CC. Since then (June 1987), I’ve never – and I really do mean never – had an outstanding balance on a CC. Interest payments my ass.
Alfred moved in with me, and soon thereafter I got a call from Carolyn (still in Tucson) who had a dog that she needed to get rid of. Alfred and I adopted a male cocker spaniel and (we thought we were so cool) named him Beaujolais, or Beau for short.
Soon after I moved into my house, my Grama came to visit. As a boy I dreaded my Grama; she was stern, she didn’t tolerate my ambivalence (which was a good thing on her part but she could have communicated that better), and she terrorized me as a young boy for dribbling urine on the toilet seat. But, I give her much of the credit for whatever skills I have in terms of manners.
She is recently retired, wants to travel, and has set her sights on Tucson. I am apprehensive but (of course) invite her to come. Her visit lasts a week, and I…have a fantastic time. We get to know each other as adults, we laugh, we see more of Tucson than I had seen the previous 4 years, and we talk about everything. But most of all, I make her laugh – this is a big deal for a woman not known for her humor. That trip, more than anything else, is the cornerstone for what became a very rewarding relationship.
Mom also visited at some point (her first time to Arizona after dropping me off for school in August of ’82), although still recovering from Diana’s accident and the subsequent divorce that visit was a much different, more subdued experience.
Arlene visited, too; in fact I think she visited more than once. Arlene was not a drinker, but we’d go out and she would get giddy, fast. One night we went to a posh bar at Ventana Canyon, and Arlene, with a serious buzz going, ended up stealing handfuls of silverware. Like, who needs silverware?
In June of 1988 Arlene and David were married, in Napa. Dad, still transitioning into being single again and getting through the financial realities of divorce (half his retirement going to Mom, entirely warranted), was a bit of a jerk with Arlene, judging her wedding decisions from purely a financial perspective. Mark to the rescue! I take out a $5000 loan from the Electrical Credit Union that I had been a member of ever since I could walk, and paid for the entire wedding.
With the travel ban now lifted, I started traveling for work; this planted a seed that would soon bloom big. I traveled to Germany (twice), and Korea once for a project called DAMMS-R (Department of the Army Movement Management System). It was absurd – essentially a huge IBM mainframe in a 18 wheel truck, running logistics software. It was supposed to be ruggedized – you know, driving through war zones. Right.
I also traveled to a few places in the US; mostly Ft. Lee (Virginia) and Ft. Belvoir (also Virginia, near Washington DC).
In Ft. Lee I worked primarily with a Lt Col Booth, who was an exemplary man of honor; it was a privilege to work with him.
[Let me be clear on what “work” means; admittedly, it was bullshit. We worked heavily through contractors, who did most of the documentation of the design (and documentation really was the extent of our output). My title was Systems Engineer; I was the integrator for a system that didn’t exist and likely would not for some time.]
For one 12 month period (circa 1988-1989) I traveled to Ft. Belvoir for two weeks each month; usually the two weeks were not always back to back, so often times I only worked 3 days a week (flew east on Monday, which took all day; and returned on Friday, back in Tucson before lunch. This is what government abuse looks like). The Army Program Managers were located at TACMIS (Tactical Management Information Systems) in Belvoir, and I was the “PM” representing ISEC due to a Colonel Senkus – who was a very large prick, a horrible manager and a nasty man, who would joke about obliterating Ft. Huachuca with Air Force assets – who was bitter about being forced to use ISEC for his engineering resources and so took it out on me. The work was not fun, but I really enjoyed Washington DC.
One of the positive work experiences did not include TACMIS. I was working on a “electronic dog tag” project, which consisted of doing a market survey to explore what technologies were available to meet the requirements. The essence: soldiers show up (new job, new installation, new war zone, whatever) and all their records (medical, professional, etc) were digitally on their dog tag. Security was an issue, but the exposure to cutting edge technologies was really interesting! The effort resulted in a presentation, along with my recommendations, to a group of Army Generals at the Pentagon. What a rush! I was 25, rubbing elbows with the highest echelons of power in the Pentagon. Of course, they rejected my recommendation; I was ready to take chances in a very risk adverse environment (again, security implications being the most important).
When I wanted to stay in DC, I would plan the two weeks to go back to back. I visited all the different historical monuments, the Smithsonian museums, and had fun with the night life. I started an “East Coast” relationship with a nice lady named Sheila who also worked at TACMIS; for reasons unknown to me she was still single despite being a very positive, optimistic, and adventurous young lady. She would arrange tickets for concerts that we would go to once I was in town. She never talked of our relationship getting more serious; never talked about visiting me in Tucson. She was happy, I was content, and we enjoyed all of our time together.
As for my continuing religious journey; my first few years working I worked closely with a Mormon, Jim Davis. He was my age, and to this day he remains one of the most decent and conscientious human beings I’ve had the pleasure to be around. I kept asking myself, “Does he seem like a typical member of a cult?” (which is how mainstream Christianity views the Church of the Latter Day Saints). Nope; he seems like someone who is following the religion he was raised in, trying to do his best as a human being, and succeeding in a grand way as far as I could tell.
I was slowly coming to the conclusion that organized religion (although I’m most familiar with Christianity) was simply a matter of divide and conquer; pursuit of power; non-stop judgement; and no toleration for dissent or open minded, philosophical contemplation. Religion is tribal, and as an adult I had no interest in joining tribes.
I didn’t really date in Tucson during most of this time. For the first year after graduation, I sorta dated a friend who I had known from my Alpha Chi days with Goldwater. But the fire was never there for me…plus, with the weekly commute, weekends with Herman, and enough traveling I didn’t have a lot of time.
However, in the summer of 1989 I did the unthinkable: I hit on Alfred and Albert’s very attractive cousin, who had a boyfriend. She ditched him, we dated, and it ended quickly as she still had feelings for her boyfriend. But before it ended I dreamt up a great trip for us to the US Virgin Islands.
The airlines had recently started the frequent flier programs which are now ubiquitous; to compete against each other the airlines offered triple the miles. With all my work travel soon I had over 200,000 miles on American Airlines, which would get me two free tickets to St. Thomas. With my breakup now complete, I phoned my High School buddy John “Russ” Bussell. He was going to grad school to get his MBA at SF State, and had a flexible schedule; he was in!
Now for another example of my casual, ambivalent, laissez faire personality. I had originally arranged for the tickets in the name of the girl I was dating; after Russ was on board, I didn’t bother formally changing the names since I didn’t see it as a big deal. Russ and I meet in Los Angeles the day before our flight out; we stayed with Goldwater, and had a great time catching up with her. The next day she takes us to the airport, and we eventually find out….we ain’t flyin’ without officially changing the name on the ticket, which can only be done Mon-Fri 8-5. Russ, ever the trooper (only good old friends would tolerate such irresponsibility) fly’s home, as do I. That week I change the tickets, change our hotel reservations (luckily since it is September, which is Hurricane season, it’s easy to make these changes), and that next Friday we…meet in LA! See Goldwater, who enjoys my mistakes, but Russ and I finally make it to the US Virgin Islands.
What a time! We spent 3 days in St. Thomas, then moved on to St. John. At St. John we met a group of 5 (4 ladies and one guy) from Chicago the first night; we grouped up and spent the next 3 days together, just having a blast. We took a boat tour, partied on an uninhabited island one night, and had all sorts of fun conversations. Russ hit’s (successfully!) on one girl, I hit (unsuccessfully!) on another, but still end up making out with the third girl (the fourth girl was the cutest but was with her boyfriend). To be young and adventurous…
Back in Tucson Big Brothers put an an “adults only” event, which consisted of a pub crawl via a bus. We ended up going to a number (6? 9?) of bars, where I quickly got very drunk. I met a girl (a Big Sister) who was really cute, lots of fun. We danced, hung out, and at the end of the evening I asked for her number. She said I was too drunk to remember, but I promised otherwise. The next morning, I had of course no clue what her number was. I called my counselor at BB, sheepishly explained the situation, and asked if I could get this girls number (I totally forget her name; sigh). I did, I called, we dated – but it was brief, and for this I am a bit embarrassed. Without going into inappropriate details, it was only when I was sober that I realized this fun, really cute girl had a relatively large butt. It just…couldn’t work for me.
The work promotions kept coming; I can’t make this sound like an accomplishment, however, since in some ways they were almost automatic. After a year as a GS-9 I was promoted to GS-11 ($36,000), and a year later (Jan ’89) to GS-12 ($42,000); it helps to work at HQ, where positions and mobility are easier to come by.
However, that upward mobility almost came back to bite me. By 1989, after two trips to Germany, I wanted to move there and work for ISEC-Europe, located in Worms. I applied, met some people, let my intentions be known, to no avail. I learned later that my being a GS-12 was part of the problem; there weren’t many of those positions open, and the ones that did exist were being “held” for folks already working there.
It turns out that my talks of wanting to go to Germany during the daily commutes to Huachuca got my manager Dennis Robbins to thinking that he should be adventurous as well (he was married, with 3 step daughters). With more seniority and experience and relationships, he was able to get a transfer approved pretty quick. Dennis and I had a wonderful working relationship, and so he put in more than a few good words and the next thing I know I was offered a transfer. I signed a 3 year commitment (I was civil service, but the commitment was standard, to justify the expenses of shipping me to and back from Germany).
I was off to Europe! I could not have been more excited.
After 3 post-college years in Tucson – with annual ski trip to Colordo, Utah, and Tahoe with Sherisse and Goldwater and others; with random visits from Goldwater; with a SoCal trip for Carolyn’s wedding (her second marriage by that time!); after many quality nights with Ed from Louisiana (whom I met from the moving company; he took my place) listening to U2; but, mostly, after a very domesticated life in Tucson, I was out-a-here!
Oct 1989 – Aug 1992 – While I am reserved in life, I’m always ready for an adventure. I had a 2 year old house in Tucson – no problem, rent it out! I had been in Tucson for 7 years now – no problem, time for new experiences! I had my relationship with Herman – no problem, it’s been 3 years, I’ve done all I can do! I have a dog – no problem, Alfred will take him! I have a car – no problem, sell it (actually it broke down just before I left)!
Actually, after saying goodbye to Herman I pondered the impact that I had on him. Despite the many hours I spent with him, showing him my “white collar” lifestyle and introducing him to all my friends, I still came to the conclusion that I hadn’t moved the needle. He was still motivated to become a truck driver, still not that adventurous or ambitious. This experience tainted me in some ways, in terms of subscribing to the liberal outlook that we can all make a difference, one day at a time, one person at a time.
I packed up my house, with most things going in storage (compliments of the government). I was heading to Germany for 3 years with literally 2 suitcases; starting fresh. Leaving the house for the last time was a surprise; the relief, the weight immediately falling from my shoulders, was a shock. This might sound insignificant, but the stress was not the mortgage or the general responsibility. The stress was the backyard; it was not landscaped when I bought the house, and rather than pay someone to do it, I took it upon myself. With my limited free time, after living in the house for 2 years the backyard was just recently finished. I never realized how much this effected (limited) me until I walked out of the house. Bye-bye!
[I would keep the house as a rental, until selling it in the Summer of 2003. I was stunned to return to Tucson in 2003 to sign the papers; the neighborhood, which was exceptional when I first moved in, was run down, with cars on the front lawns. One street was roped off by the Police for some reason. I didn’t realize how lucky I was to get out sooner rather than later. After 16 years of ownership I walked away with $7,000 profit. Impressive…not.]
After a few days in Napa, I flew out of San Francisco on October 16th 1989, arriving in Germany on October 17th. That night, awake with jet lag, I turned the radio on to listen to the World Series between the Oakland A’s and SF Giants, held that night in Candlestick Park. It’s the pregame show when suddenly the announcers are rattled, because of a 6.9 earthquake centered near Santa Cruz that was rocking the stadium. I panicked for a short time, as they reported that the Marina was in flames and the Bay Bridge had collapsed. I missed it by a day…luckily!
I quickly got setup with a new and large 2 BR apartment (rare for Americans in Germany), horribly bland government furniture, and NO kitchen (my choice). For 3 years I would eat out and, when necessary, do dishes in the bathtub. I also lacked any light fixtures, so light bulbs hung from a wire from all the ceilings. But what I lacked in house hold goods I made up for with…a BMW. The Government loaned me $5000 to get settled, and I went and blew nearly it all on a used BMW. This was Financial Lesson 102. Stupid.
I quickly – as in, just a few weeks – realized these 3 years were going to be amazing. What an adventure it was! I arrived in Germany literally weeks before the Berlin Wall came down. Sheila from my Ft. Belvoir days came to visit, and we took a trip to Berlin. A weekend in Amsterdam (coffee shop – yes; red light – no). Arlene visits in December; we visit Paris (Christmas) and Copenhagen (New Years). I started keeping a list of my weekend adventures.
But along with the travel adventures, there were my friends and colleagues. People have different reasons to take the dramatic step of living and working in Germany, and these differences mean that the group of folks who live and work there end up being quite the variety. But there was a core group of young people in their 20’s – say about 20 of us – from all different walks of life and political persuasions. It was a treat to be gently forced into spending time with all these different folks, some of whom for silly reasons I may have never befriended back in the States. Ernst Schuppe (hypochondriac), Lee LeClair (top shelf taste), Mike Macari (always secretive), Tom Kudla (alt everything), John Fehan (trying to be more adventurous than he truly was), Brad and Laurel Boyer (“old” people showing us old is still cool), and of course the musketeers: Mark Maier (the professor), Scott Gilcrest (the philosopher), Tom Kunath (the warrior), whom I spent the most time with on the different adventures. Of which, I’ll only point out two in particular:
1. July ’90. 5 of us (Tom, Scott, John, Tom’s brother Brian, and myself) cram into a small french truck (2 in front, 3 lying down in the back truck bed with a camper cover), and head south. We drive through the night past France, into Spain (this is before the EU lifted restrictions on border crossings and before the Euro, so we had multiple denominations and passports for all the border stops). We stop on the east coast of Spain for a night, before continuing on to Pamplona; we are destined for the Running of the Bulls. We arrive late afternoon, and start the partying. Soon it’s dark, and suddenly things are going very wrong. There is rioting, buses and cars being vandalized, people (to include us) getting in fights. What’s happening? Turns out it’s demonstrations that got out of control by people supporting the separation cause for Catalonia. We sleep literally on the streets, in the gutter (we had never bothered to make hotel arrangements, which were impossible anyway), expecting to leave in the morning, the Run cancelled. We are awoken at 6AM by water hoses; the street cleaners are slowly cleaning everything up in an amazingly efficient way, not because the party or Run is cancelled; rather, it’s show time. With torched buses still in the street, we take our place in the cobblestone gauntlet where the bulls will soon be running. And here they come; adrenaline rush! Run as fast and as long as you can, pushing any and everyone out of the way as it’s dog eat dog. As soon as the bulls are almost on you, dart to the side (there is no sidewalk or curb here; it’s the old town, literally a ~20′ wide street, with boxy 3 and 4 story buildings on either side butting right up against the street) and plaster yourself against the wall. Bulls run by, and we follow! All the way to the coliseum; we didn’t know what we were doing, but we were lucky since we followed the last bull (of about 7 total) into the bullring, at which time the doors close and no one else can get it. In total we ran about 1000 yards, in under 3 minutes. We are hungover, but we are happily in the coliseum with about 200 other lucky bodies. The coliseum is packed; immediately the image of Christians being fed to the lions comes to mind. One by one they let out bulls, who run around chasing young drunk men who think they know better. One moment I’m casually talking with Tom, the next I’m running for my life. That night we party more, in the streets, with thousands of people. It is insane. We barely last 48 hours in Pamplona before we have to leave; this lifestyle can’t be sustained. We head west to San Sebastian, where we relax again for a day, sleeping on the streets like homeless, waking up in the morning to the police asking us to move. One night in particular our truck is broken into and some stuff stolen; all I’ve lost is my passport (remember, I’m casual, ambivalent, laissez faire!). We continue on, playing hacky sack everywhere we go, which enthralls young Spaniards who are well versed in soccer to join in and shame us. But we meet people, and try to serve as our own unique ambassadors of the USA. We end up in Switzerland, at the Montreux Jazz Festival, where we spend a few nights camping. I get to see Lee Ritenour and Quincy Jones; both great shows. No one knows that days prior we were drunk, sleeping in gutters and chasing bulls. We make it back to Worms on a Sunday, in time to get back to work. Just an amazing trip (with plenty of pictures!). We went back to Pamplona in ’91, but the first trip is always the best.
2. Summer 1990; kayaking in Austria. I am still a novice; Scott, Tom, Mark and Jake are pretty good. In 1990 the kayaks are huge (~13 feet long) and unsculptured; they are a coffin. We are hung over; the previous night we had stumbled onto a band and party at a campground, with beers flowing. That morning we hit the water. There is a horizon up ahead; I am clueless and in front. It’s a drop, a 15′ waterfall. I go over and immediately eject; the others, smartly pull to the side to watch me disappear, and wait for me to reappear again down river. I don’t. I’m being churned in the wash cycle; being brought up, gasping a breathe of air, and immediately sucked back down. Over and over (well, likely only about 5 times). I am struggling to get out of the grasp, but I can’t, and I give up. My mind is clear, I am calm: I’m amused at how my life will end. Over a watefall! What an idiot. However, I guess it’s not my time. By me relaxing, stopping the good fight, I stretch out my 6 foot body, which breaks through the wash cycle cylinder and spits we out just as fast as I’d gone in. I’m exhausted, amused, and my friends aren’t sure how close of a call this really was. Later, down the Class 4 river, just for grins I get flipped and face butt a rock, doing some impressive damage to my nose and face that will take a few weeks to recover. It never pays for a novice to hang with the more experienced.
In the Summer of ’91, after the aforementioned second Pamplona trip, I leave the gang in Spain and head back to Germany early. I’m flying to the States; with some stops along the way, I head to Napa for my 10th High School reunion. I see friends who I’ve kept in touch with over the intervening 10 years, but I also see old classmates. It was great to go back in time for a night…
Back in Germany I start to date a German, Steffi, for about a year; I take her home to California for Christmas ’91, which was likely foolish because even though I was adamant that at the end of my 3 year tour I was leaving Germany, alone, she certainly dreamt otherwise. Steffi has a son Christian who is about 8; we really don’t get along that well, and I’ll take the full blame. Steffi and Christian live with me for a while when she is in between homes; Corky lives with me too, and demonstrates how to really live in Germany (fluent in German due to his days at the language school in the Army), he works at a club and stays hours after closing, getting drunk and having a good time.
I see the Dead on acid; I see Bruce Springsteen with Steffi; I visit just about every country in Europe; I kayak some of the best white water in Austria, ski some great terrain in Austria and Switzerland (Grindlewald, where there is a very cheap hostel-like hotel that we go to regularly). I never hesitate to drive 4 hours for a weekend adventure; I am, after all, only here a known, finite amount of time. I befriend a lot of young Germans, who are eager to practice their english (and we are not eager to practice our german). I am in Prague for Thanksgiving ’90, before capitalism has descended so to find accommodations one simply barters at the train station with people desperate for money and so are renting out their entire apartments. I am in Paris for New Years ’91, and other times as well visiting Sherisse who is there for 6 months working as an engineer for Disney on the new Disney World. Old friends visit, like Brian Dolan and Debbie Goldwater. I say goodbye to good friends, who are constantly revolving out (all military personal are here for 3 years only; civilians can stay longer by committing to another 3 years); I say hello to new friends, but the loss is always greater than the gain.
It is an amazing time, but by the summer of ’92, with my 3 year contract expiring in October, I have a decision to make, and it’s very easy to make it. I don’t want to stay in Germany; it’s been a wild ride, but I’ve seen and done so much the lifestyle cannot be maintained. Soon it will be a hassle to drive 4 hours for a weekend adventure, and I’ll opt not to. What’s the point of living in Europe if your lifestyle is going to be “normal”? I don’t want to work for the Government. It’s been good to me, with the personal and professional opportunities I’ve experienced, but the government (like all large companies I suppose) is bloated and slow and bureaucratic and inefficient and wasteful. To leave the government you have to (of course!) fill out a form, with a little small box asking for the reason you are quitting. I wrote a novel in small print, venting my frustrations about my time in the government. I didn’t want to return to America. It’s difficult to comprehend, but as an expatriate all of your information about the USA is via the media; and the media is more often negative. After 3 years in Europe I felt a deep respect for the history of America, and a deeper cynicism for Americans. I still suffered from Wanderlust, and needed other places to explore. I decided upon Australia.
Aug 1992 – Jan 1993 – Prior to leaving Europe, I did a bit of homework. It is still a minor mystery to me how I did this prior to the Internet, but I researched Companies in the Sydney area that were hiring foreigners for engineering positions. I sent letters with a resume out to over 50 companies, asking specifically if they were considering foreigners (the company would have to supply the work visa), and inquiring generally to an interview around the Sept timeframe. I got enough replies that encouraged me to give it a go.
But first, I had to say goodbye to Steffi and return to the States. I’m certain Steffi was still hopeful that I’d throw out a surprise offer, but the thought honestly never crossed my mind. I enjoyed my time with her, but we were not compatible in so many ways.
I flew to Chicago first, where Arlene lived. She had just had her first child Jake in July, so I went to meet him, as well as seeing Dad and Dave and Arlene Young (Scott Young’s parents, from my St. John’s days), also all visiting. Then I continued to Napa, where I caught up with friends before leaving for Australia.
Arriving in Sydney with one huge backpack (I hadn’t contemplated it much, but I roughly figured I might be living in Australia for 3 years, as in Europe), I checked in to a hostel near the University. I called all the companies I had mailed a resume to ~3 months prior, and every one of them indicated they could no longer sponsor a foreigner visa, and thus an interview didn’t really make sense.
Every one!
It turns out Australia was suffering from a recession that began around September 1991; unemployment continued to rise until late 1992. For a long time the white collar industries were insulated from the damage, but by the time I arrived that was no longer the case. By late 1992, unemployment had reached 11%, the highest level in Australia since the Great Depression of the 1930s.
Undeterred, I did the next best thing: I stored my “work” stuff with a friend in Sydney, bought a 3 month open bus pass, and went traveling (people will often say they “backpacked” through Australia, which is a misnomer; yes, you travel with a backpack, but you rarely camp since hostels are everywhere and cheap, and you rarely hitchhike since the bus system is exceptional and also cheap). I traveled the east coast, from Sydney to Canberra to Melbourne; along the southern coast over to Adelaide; up the gut to Darwin; hard right to Cairns; and down the amazing east coast, back to Sydney. In about 12 weeks.
It was such an amazing journey. Meeting all sorts of people – no American’s, many Canadians and Europeans – exchanging stories and recommendations; enjoying the time on the bus, reading, pondering, watching, and waking in the middle of the night to a loud crash, the sound of another kangaroo being plowed over by the bus which was equipped with a fail safe “roo-bar”; and truly seeing the huge island and it’s amazing landscape. Europe was a lot of small vacations, all exceptional. But this? It was traveling, with no time boundary or destination, other than the next stop.
In Melbourne I met a girl who was in a college exchange program via Stanford; she was spending 6 months in Melbourne at school, and would return to CA in December. We met on a 3 day tour trip I took, wandering the South Coast up to and including Kangaroo Island. We made definite plans to travel to New Zealand together in December; again, I have no idea how we coordinated this, without the internet or email. I wish I knew.
In Coober Pedy, the Outback, arriving late at night, I quietly went into a pitch dark hostel, no one around, found the first bed and went to sleep. I awoke to realize I was in a cave (most people here lived underground, due to the exceptional heat), and I was by myself – 40 empty beds all in a row. After a day here, I moved on to Alice Springs, where I hiked Uluru (Ayers Rock) in time to watch the sun rise.
In Darwin I met another woman on another multi-day tour. By this time I had met a number of Germans – they are the most traveled people in the world! – which was somewhat unexceptional since I had just lived there for 3 years. But in Darwin, I was swept off my feet by Birgit Schlüter, who was in the midst of her own 6 week trip, solo. She was meeting her boyfriend in Fiji at the end of her trip, but right away if I had anything to do with that it was going to be sabotage. Birgit worked at a publishing house in Hannover; she was well read and imaginative and adventurous and perceptive (albeit she was still German, with a cerebrally retarded emotional level and pragmatic to the end). Since we were generally going the same route (clockwise!), we decided to travel together, with one anxiety inducing interruption: after a week in the Darwin area, Birgit and I separate, intending to meet again in Cairns; she had a pre-arranged trip to Alice Springs, where I had already been. She could have blown me off, but we met back up in Cairns as I was hoping for. We went snorkeling in the Barrier Reef, took a breathtaking 3 day sailboat tour of the Whit Sunday islands, enjoyed a 3 day unguided jeep tour on Fraser Island. On Fraser we traveled with 2 other couples, both from the UK. They were shocked to learn that Birgit and I had only known each other for a few weeks; they commented that our ease together suggested we had been together for years.
It was during this time that Birgit extracted my imagination which had been buried under layers of rationale, dry, engineering detritus. Each and every night we had a routine: one of us would start a story, of our own design. At some point, we would simply stop, nod to the other, who would then have to continue the story. The creative process was intoxicating. She also exposed me to some great fictional writers that I was ignorant of: Gabriel Garcia Marquez, Milan Kundera, Günter Grass, Isabel Allende, et al. We read, we talked, we listened, we loved.
We ended up in Sydney, late November, and it was Birgit’s birthday. I snuck out early, bought some flowers and breakfast and a card, and laid them at the base of the bed so she would see them when she first awoke. That night we went to a play (Cats), and had an exceptional dinner at a very nice restaurant, the first in months for me. We grudgingly acknowledged, as little as possible, the reality that our romance in the land of the Never Never was coming to an end. Birgit was flying to Fiji to meet her boyfriend, while I was flying to New Zealand to meet my Stanford friend from Melbourne. At one point I got on my knee and asked Birgit to come to CA and marry me; her emotional spirit yelled yes, but her pragmatic German said no. We said goodbye…
I spent 2 weeks in New Zealand, touring around with a company called the Magic Bus. As in Australia, you could get off and on when you wanted, but for the most part this bus was less dedicated to transportation than it was our trip; if we stayed off one day, we might have to wait 3-5 days before the next Magic Bus would round the corner.
We spent the entire time on the South Island. Right away my friend let me know of her intentions, but I was so heart broken from leaving Birgit that nothing happened; still, we enjoyed our travels together, staying in hostels along the way.
New Zealand is an amazingly beautiful country; at the end of my trip, I realized I had done things backwards. I should have spent months in New Zealand, and weeks in Australia. This was due to most of the geographical beauty of Australia reminding me of California (the coast) and Arizona (the outback). It was beautiful but not completely unique to me. New Zealand, on the other hand, also had plenty of coast but it was wild and felt different. There were dramatic mountain ranges, and glaciers leading right down to the ocean beaches. Thick and lush (unlike CA), green and dramatic.
We flew back to Sydney; I had a few more days before returning to San Francisco. At the airport I get off the plane and am walking to the luggage area when I see…Birgit. She saw me from a distance, walking with my friend, and almost turned and walked away. When I saw her I was overcome; disbelief. It turns out meeting her boyfriend in Fiji did not go over well at all. After a few days all she wanted was to be with me. I guess I had mentioned to her what day I would be returning from NZ, so she returned to Sydney from Fiji earlier than planned, and waited out at the airport watching people disembark from each plane arriving from New Zealand. It’s amazing; like a movie.
We talked; Birgit still had a few weeks left of her vacation (her now ex-boyfriend had already flown back to Germany), and could add a flight to Los Angeles, essentially changing her route home from flying west to flying east. That became the plan; she would spend a few weeks with me in December in CA, before returning home.
Before leaving Australia I returned to my friend in Sydney to get the things I had left with him; he too had left the civil service, and was working for a company named Cisco Systems. I was familiar with Cisco, since I had spent some time in Europe deploying Cisco AGS routers all over Germany and Italy. He said he could arrange an interview for me in San Jose; I thought that was great, although to be honest I was thinking more about Birgit than the fact that I was unemployed, running out of money, with no plan in place.
I flew back to CA before Birgit. I met up with Rich and Kel for a night out, and that next day I drove down to LA to pick up Birgit. We returned on Hwy 1; I was trying hard to impress Birgit (although, truth be told, I had essentially left CA when I was 19 – over 10 years ago – so it was arguable that I didn’t really know the state that well, anyway). While in Napa I took her on a hot balloon ride, my first; we went to Lake Tahoe for a few days, too.
We talked about what to do. Birgit was strong and independent and her job as a publisher was important to her; it was difficult to envision just giving that up, without any idea of what her life would be like in the USA. I was pretty clear; I had just spent 3 years in Germany, and I didn’t really have a desire to return. I had essentially never lived in CA as an adult, and so the near future was exciting to me. When Birgit left to return to Germany, unlike in Australia, we were a couple now, committed to each other, waiting to see what might happen.
Jan 1993 – April 1993 – I move in with my Dad, who is living in a house in Martinez, still working at Alhambra Electric. My Mom had remarried in 1988, to Steve Boettcher, and they were still in Napa. Steve lent me a truck to drive, so I was mobile. Thanks to Scott in Sydney I interviewed with Cisco in the middle of January; the interview went great, and I was completely expecting a job offer that next day. 2 weeks went by without word from Cisco, so I started to go to the library, looking at employment data to try and get a job. For no reason at all I was not nervous, although I should have been (again: casual, ambivalent, laissez faire). I was nearly completely broke, nearly 30 years old; I had registered for unemployment benefits, but did not qualify since I had quit the government, versus having been fired. So what did I do? I went to Germany for a week to see Birgit.
Upon my return I finally heard from Cisco with a job offer; I was ecstatic. I drove down to the South Bay with Rich (he was unemployed at the time and had nothing but time on his hands), to look for an apartment; I drove him crazy listening to a mix tape of REM (“Hey Baby, are we having fun?”). I found a room available in Mountain View with two other guys who I didn’t know; but it was only 5 minutes from work, and that’s all I needed at the moment.
I was ready to work; I certainly needed the money. After not having heard from Cisco for a few weeks, and getting a better taste of the employment market, I lost some of my confidence. When it was time to negotiate my pay, I told them I was payed $42,000 at my last job. While this was true it wasn’t completely accurate, and to bolster my position I should have erred on the upside. While in Germany I was also payed a stipend, for housing and utility costs; my (auto) gas bills were subsidized as well. This totaled around $10,000 a year; I should have leveraged that with Cisco, but didn’t; I wanted the job too badly.
I started working March 13th at Cisco’s Mountain View office; I was employee number 1503. I was working as a Customer Engineer in the Customer Advocacy department; essentially, on the phone, taking calls from customers, resolving their issues.
By the following month, my 30th birthday, I was entirely smitten and immersed in Cisco; I loved the company, I was extremely attracted to this new non-government work experience; and I quickly figured out that my success depended only on my ambition and work ethic. I was ready to kick some ass and take names.
Luck – it’s who you know, not what you know – in my 20’s:
Albert Rivera – With no job offer after graduation, Albert – a friend from college who had graduated a year earlier – offers to help me get a job with the US Army as a Civil Servant at Ft. Huachuca, working for the Information Systems Engineering Command (ISEC). Huge.
Dennis Robbins – My manager at ISEC; a great manager. After applying for a transfer to Germany, it was not going anywhere; a transfer was not likely going to be approved. Then Dennis decided (for his own reasons) to also transfer, going to Germany with his wife and 3 step-daughters. He insisted to the ISEC folks in Germany that I come along. Huge.
Scott Smith – I met him in Germany, but didn’t know him that well. Prior to my leaving Germany, he had already left and gone to Australia (his wife was an Aussie) to work for Cisco. After traveling through Australia (Aug – Dec ’92), I visited Scott before returning broke and unemployed to CA. He said he could get me a job at Cisco, and he spoke with Joe Pinto. Huge.
If Albert doesn’t help me get a job out of college, I don’t go to Germany, which means I don’t go to Australia, which means I don’t work for Cisco. The thread of random luck…