December, 2016

The bond of twins

Niki, Britta, and Alice were ice skating at the Resort at Squaw Creek about a week before their 9th Birthday. Niki fell, and Alice plowed into Niki from behind, accidentally hitting the back of Niki’s head (Niki was wearing a knit cap) with the point of her skate.

Britta, who was pretty shaken up upon seeing this, ran to get Mama (I was not there). Britta was pretty hysterical.

When Andrea got there, Niki looked alright. But after rubbing the back of her head with her hand underneath the knit cap, Niki’s hand was completely bloody.

Niki lost it, but Britta lost it even more. At one point, Britta says to Mama through the tears:

“If Niki dies you are going to have to put me down.”

Classic. After almost 9 years of spending nearly every moment together, they can’t imagine life without the other. The bond is something to behold, as there are few comparable relationships in human nature. We should all be so lucky.

In the end, Niki was fine. No stitches, no headache, and we didn’t have to put Britta down.

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The psychology of politics

A cheat sheet of “The Righteous Mind – Why Good People are Divided by Politics and Religion”, by Jonathan Haidt (2012).

Where does morality come from? Likely from all 3:
– Nature (nativism)
– Nurture (empiricist, taught by parents)
– Rationalist (from our own experiences)

Reason (Plato) and intuition (Hume); intuition is dominant (since judgements depend heavily on expediency), while reason will struggle to explain intuition after the fact. In support of intuition:
– people are obsessive about reputation
– reasoning works like a press secretary, after the fact; this may lead to deception
– If reasoning needs to justify an intuition, it will ask “Can I believe it?” when our intuition wants it to be true, and “Must I believe it?” when our intuition wants it to be false (intuition influences reasoning, not the other way around)
– In moral and political matters we are group orientated; always support the team

Reasoning is less important to the individual reacting to their intuition, and more important to the people the individual is trying to persuade (the individual uses reasoning [or rationalization] to influence other’s intuition).

Since intuition is more persuasive than rationalization, morality binds us together in our groups (individualistic (objects based) or socio-centric (relationship based)) rather than to “truth”, and blinds us to the reality that the “other side” has good people with good intentions. We don’t see the (moral) positions of the other group; we don’t recognize that there may be more than one form of moral truth, or more than one valid framework for judging people or managing society.

Moral domain varies by culture; it is narrow in individualistic (protect individual freedoms and autonomy) cultures, broad in socio-centric (communities, groups and institutions first) cultures. US might seem individualistic, but within the US you have groups (religious or conservative) which are more socio-centric (basic unit is the family, not the individual).

Morality breaks down into categories and all innate (but with different emphasis).
– Care (evolved due to caring for children)
– Fairness (evolved due to cooperation without exploitation; must be proportional)
– Liberty (band together to resist oppression)
– Loyalty (evolved due to forming and maintaining coalitions)
– Authority (evolved to forge relationships that will benefit us)
– Sanctity (popular with the religious right; invest objects with irrational and extreme value)

Liberals are pre-disposed (genes, neurology, etc) to novelty, variety, diversity, and are less sensitive to threats. Conservatives are the opposite. Liberals value care (predominantly), fairness, and liberty; conservatives value all 6 (they see, for example, that loyalty and authority supports liberty, while liberals might see liberty as ephemeral (since the emphasis is on the unaligned individual). Liberals are unable to grasp what loyalty, authority, or sanctity have to do with morality.

Which is more prevalent: competition within groups (individuals), or competition between groups (or both)? He asserts we are 90% within, 10% between. Conservatives, who value loyalty, authority, and sanctity (religion, which is a team sport), are better than liberals at minimizing intra-group warfare while maximizing inter-group warfare.

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Mental toughness

Annika is now competing in gymnastics at level 7; there are a number of new and difficult moves she now has to perfect. One of these, as an example, is the back hand spring on the beam. Annika is at the point where she can successfully do it, but only when her coach is spotting her; and barely spotting her at that. On the drive hope we talked about mental preparation; I’m not sure that this has been discussed in any depth at the gym, and I think Annika is at the point now where she needs to be aware of the importance of, and practice, mental exercises to get her ready for competitions.

This morning I found this link, to help introduce Annika to the idea and importance of your mental game. This will be the start of a new journey, beyond the physical realm. Some excerpts from that link:

Shannon Miller, an Olympic Gold Medalist in gymnastics, agrees that mental preparation is key to success—and she says she couldn’t have gotten to the Olympics on physical ability alone. “The physical aspect of the sport can only take you so far. The mental aspect has to kick in, especially when you’re talking about the best of the best,” she says. “In the Olympic games, everyone is talented. Everyone trains hard. Everyone does the work. What separates the gold medalists from the silver medalists is simply the mental game.”

“When you are an elite athlete, one of the best in the world, the physical differences between you and your peers are very, very small.” says Scott Grafton, a researcher at the University of California, Santa Barbara and a Dana Foundation grantee, who studies action representation, or how the brain organizes movement into a goal-oriented action. “So what really determines success? The way athletes are approaching their sport at the cognitive level.”

Leading up to the 1996 Olympic Games, Miller and “Magnificent Seven” teammate Dominique Moceanu practiced six to eight hours a day, six days a week. Even on days of competition, Miller says she would practice her routines up to ten times before performing for the judges. “We did a lot of repetitions. It was important to help perfect your routines, of course. But it also helped with the mental game,” she says. “With that much practice, you knew when you got into a competition situation, and you were a little bit nervous, you wouldn’t blank. You could count on your muscle memory taking over simply because you had done the routine so many times.”

And, according to Moceanu, not overthinking things is important. “Right before I would go up on any apparatus, I would just say a little prayer and then let it all go,” she says. “I let it go to autopilot and let my training take over. Because if you try to think too much, you overwhelm yourself and end up making uncharacteristic mistakes.”

For example, Moceanu says that her mental game has been very beneficial to the rest of her life. “Sport is a model for life and it’s helped me with my entire life, with my focus, discipline, and reaching my goals,” she says. “You learn how to budget your time, to work hard, and to balance things. It’s invaluable.”

Moceanu agrees. “I’ve seen so many gifted athletes not make it because they couldn’t handle the sport mentally. It’s such a huge part of gymnastics—really any sport once you get to a certain level. Only those with a strong mind are going to compete at a high level. Only those with a strong mind are going to win.”

Another link.

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