A look behind Andrea’s curtain after Dad’s passing

As background, here is a short link about my estrangement with Dad, and another link about his life.

Arlene and I converged in Benicia on the day my Dad passed, Friday Nov 5 2021; she came from Denver, I came from Hawaii where we were all on vacation with Jenny and Russell.

Arlene and I were entirely in sync with everything that had to happen after the passing of a parent. The Trust, the finances, contacting friends, planning a ceremony, clearing out the house…we worked very well together.

One of the odd aspects to this time was that you insert yourself wholly into your parent’s life. They are your parent, but they also have lived a life that is private and that you haven’t been privy to. This is especially the case as you read their emails and texts, which you really have to do in order to make sure that everyone (many people you don’t know) is informed of his passing and invited to his ceremony.

The unfortunate dependency of my estrangement with Dad was Andrea; she was (indirectly) partially responsible for the estrangement (it was her rampant deception that overwhelmed my ability to tolerate any deception with my Dad), but also in a position (along with Arlene) to mediate the end of the estrangement. But that would have been too humble (and too humiliating) of Andrea. Little did I know, however, how Andrea was taking an opposite approach and venting to my Dad about me in such mean, horrible and inappropriate ways. For example from 2021:

The lie about Kino in the text above is broken down here.

Or this:

Finally, there was a bank receipt that my Dad kept from January 2018 for $5000 that he gave to Andrea. Confused, I asked Andrea about it:

The only problem with this is that I paid for the flights to Europe in 2018. So….was Andrea like Mam, extorting money from Dad? This wouldn’t surprise me.